Since the beginning of humankind, there have been those who have experienced the pull of the “forbidden”, which they find to be difficult to resist. Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
There are also those who think that they are the exception to the rule —that it either isn’t as “forbidden” as it is thought to be, or they simply don’t think it’s as dangerous as it is proposed. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.
As a marriage ministry, we continually receive letters from those who are grieving because of specific problems they are having with their non-Christian spouse (with the problems being specific to issues that surround their different core value systems and Christian beliefs).
These articles talk about the journey of discovery into the problems of tying your heart with those who are not similar in faith.
In the first two articles, in particular, “Authors Camerin Courtney and Todd Hertz discuss why the temptations —and dangers —of dating non-Christians are very real.
Please prayerfully read the following articles and consider what God is saying to your heart —especially in light of the verses addressed to the church in 2 Corinthians -18.
The following are links that will take you to these specific articles and videos:• DATING NON-CHRISTIANS: Forbidden Fruits Appeal – Part 1 • DATING NON-CHRISTIANS: Forbidden Fruits Appeal – Part 2• CHOOSING A PARTNER: Dating for Christians Biblical Guidelines And then here’s something you may want to view on this issue, talked about by Pastor Tim Keller.
Marriage and raising a family, in itself, is difficult enough.
It lends itself to problems because of the dynamic of living together in a fallen and sinful world.But when you put the added pressure on top of it, of living in partnership with someone who comes from an entirely different spiritual reference point, it compounds the problems dramatically.That’s the reason we want to provide you with several links to some thought-provoking articles and videos, which are posted on different web sites.It’s a Q&A video on the subject of “Dating a Non-Christian.” You may find this very insightful:“Why would you want to date someone where it could lead to marriage —the closest human relationship you could ever have, when Jesus, who is closest to you personally, they don’t share with you? God is part of your identity —it is who you are.”“When you date someone who’s not a follower of Jesus, one of two things happens, and the 1st one is —you put God at the center and that person you’re dating is always on the outskirts, and you feel like you’re always separating because you’re trying to get closer to God, and they can’t understand that …so you drift…OR …you put the person at the center of your relationship and God is on the outskirts, because they don’t share that & when you have decisions, it makes you drift apart from God.It’s only when you’re both are followers of Jesus that you can be on this journey together.”I pray this helps in some way.