Jenna voiced a common concern among single Christians looking for a lifelong partner: “My spiritual beliefs and values often make dating a very risky pursuit.I’ve been set up with guys—even ones who know I’m a Christian—who expect me to go along with their lifestyle choices: sex, drugs, excessive drinking, and the rest.
The time to think through any potentially perilous situation is before it happens. If holding to your values is important to you, take time to identify them before you start dating. Many awkward and compromising situations can be avoided by simply being honest with your date about your standards.
If you traveled to a large city, you would get clear directions to your exact destination so you don’t end up in an unsafe area. If your dating partner resists your efforts to be true to your beliefs, then do yourself a favor—gracefully bow out. When facing any challenge, it helps to know you are not alone.
Enlist others who share your commitment to moral integrity.
Ask them to watch your back, encourage you hold firm to your convictions, and keep you accountable. And strength is what Christian singles need when navigating the tumultuous waters of potential romance.
Seek dating advice from a mature Christian you respect.
Chances are there is someone—a pastor, mentor, teacher—whose perspectives and opinions you hold in high regard.
Spend time with this person and glean all the wisdom you can.
As Brad said, “I’ve heard Christian dating advice that assumes all Christians are exactly the same.
But it’s not as if every believer fits a certain profile.