I bought in to the false idea that ‘men commit to women who are better; women who are achievers’ – which leads to the reality that; As women, our appeal to men in a relationship has nothing to do with how much we achieve; it has everything to do with our soul; and our heart as a woman.
As Jada Pinkett says; ‘no woman wants a man other women don’t want’.
In other words, women go for the man with the most status they feel they can get.
We choose the best man we believe we are worthy of. But if we keep that story in our heads…then we are simply avoiding facing the fake stories we tell ourselves and other possible realities.
It was that there was no room to be in a relationship with me.
They had no perceived positive rewards for their efforts to court me, because I put out a tonne of masculine energy.
It was that I walked around, living my life from this place of thinking that my worth came from being career minded and successful. And yet – it pushed the better men away, because I didn’t need their direction.And that became a habit; so much so that when i spoke to men, my body was tight, I wasn’t trusting, I was fully set on directing my own life. I wasn’t soft, I was hard and trying to just be enough.I remember several years ago, being about 20 years old, and I was out with a group of girlfriends. At least not compared to the number of men who were interested in my friends. The men seemed interested in my girlfriends, but not me. Not that I was trying to actually figure it out; I was too busy feeling sorry for myself. He pulled his head right back and stepped away from me, taking one step back, literally. I remember walking away from that club where I was at, and weeks later, started to tell myself the boring story about how men don’t want to be in a relationship with me because they were intimidated by me. The reality is that attraction occurs when there is polarity.One can’t get clarity when they are feeling sorry for themselves. I was actually totally clueless, because it was none of that. Polarity happens when there is opposite energies, it didn’t have to be that way, it is just how it is in our universe.(Click here to get your Goddess Report)On this particular night, one nice young man did come up to me and introduce himself. Looking back, i now realise that it wasn’t that men were intimidated and THAT is why they didn’t or couldn’t be in a relationship with me. Ok.’ From that day on, I noticed that whenever I told men this, this particular reaction was not uncommon at all. Heh, Finally, I feel some sort of power in my life – I’m doing a LAW degree and you can’t compare to that!